You're probably familiar with some of the biggest titles in entertainment recently: Dear Evan Hansen, 13 Reasons Why and even lesser-known movies such as Netflix's A Girl Like Her. (I watched A Girl Like Her last week and it WRECKED me.)
Let me start off with this. I love that bullying has become such a topic of conversation, because it needs to be talked about. Good for the people responsible for putting these movies, shows, and musicals out so that the conversations can be had.
The only problem I have with these movies (etc) is this: We need to stop getting caught up in how beautiful the stories are or how cute Ben Platt is. Bullying is not a romantic issue, nor should it be treated as such in the real world.
If your only experience with bullying is these movies, and you've never been made fun of or felt ostracized, I can tell you that it sucks. And it's not "just teasing" if the person being teased doesn't find it funny.
People are so concerned with tweeting, sharing a FaceBook post, or posting on Instagram about how terrible bullying is, but nine times out of ten, someone witnessing bullying will just walk away. Or even worse, the proponent for anti-bullying is the one acting like a bully. My sister and I were just discussing how it seems like no one actually cares.
We talk behind people's backs, we put each other down (emotionally, and sometimes physically), we call people names, we let the new people sit by themselves instead of venturing away from our clique, because being awkward and alone looks awful and we don't want to deal with that.
But it's the right thing to do. That fact alone should propel us to help others.
Standing up for someone is inconvenient, sometimes scary, and not fun. It probably won't end in you falling in love with the victim, nor will there be a beautiful soundtrack over top of your epic showdown with evil.
But knowing that you helped someone is such a unique and great feeling. Making someone feel small the way that bullies do is unacceptable and we need to act like we care. Waiting around for someone else to do a good deed is just wasting time. YOU can be the person that steps in.
Helping someone out in a situation like this will help them be more confident, and you'll doubtlessly get a new friend. Who cares if they aren't the popular kid? They deserve the same treatment everyone else demands. Wouldn't you want someone to step in for you?
I am a September baby, which may be the root of my love for fall. I love dark chocolate, popcorn, and I do actually like brussel sprouts. I'm the kind of person that listens to a Christmas song in September. (But only one. I don't want to ruin the ~magic~).